Getting your boyfriend to propose
Things with your boyfriend are going great. When you think of the future, you think about being his wife, buying a home together, and popping out some miniature sized versions of yourselves. You know that he loves you because he tells you every single day, but you feel like your relationship has come to a standstill. Does this sound like your current situation?
How to Get Your Partner to Propose
Maybe this is having an impact on the strength of your relationship in general? The following guide features 24 subtle tricks that will convince him to propose.
But first, I want to tell you about a powerful aspect of male psychology, which can have a huge impact on how they feel about their girlfriends.
In my experience, it appears as if every man holds onto this way of thinking. Once I learned how to activate this, my relationships tended to become far more passionate and loving. By making the most of this psychological trigger, as well as the 24 clever tricks below, you could well be hearing wedding bells in the near future. I reassured him that nothing would ever change in our relationship and reminded him of how much it meant to me and how much I wanted to be his wife.
When I asked what changed his mind, he said that he realised that after our conversation that I was right. Talking things through with your partner is a whole lot better than pressurising him or giving him an ultimatum. For example, your man may be in the midst of a big career opportunity which is at the focus of his attention. An engagement ring is a luxury item and that can be very expensive. After the engagement ring comes the cost of a wedding, wedding rings and honeymoon all of which is expensive.
This was when I sat him down and had an honest conversation about it. You will also know whether he can vision you in his future when talking about major commitments such as buy a home together or even talking about kids. Another point is if he is planning on working abroad which could be a sign that he is still focusing on his own life rather than your life together as a unit. He is most likely doing it because you want to get married and he wants to make you happy.
This is something you will need to accept. My husband was a neither here nor there kind of guy and so I know this first-hand. If your man believes in marriage then for you it is just a case of waiting for when he feels stable enough in the relationship or when he is financially ready.
Now that I have spoken about how to tell whether your man is ready for marriage, it is time for me to explain what to if you deem he is ready. Before going straight in for the kill and ask him directly, I would start by dropping a few hints here and there and possibly even help set the scene for him. There are a number of clever ways which you can drop hints to your boyfriend; some of which may work and some of which may not.
Everyone is different and there is not cemented way in which I can tell you how to get your boyfriend to propose, all I can do is advise that you try each of the hints listed below. From these hints, you want to either get him to propose or to naturally strike up a conversation of marriage in which he initiates which will mean you can talk to him about it without adding pressure because it was him that initiated the conversation.
One of the things you can do is very subtly and casually bring up the subject of marriage to see how comfortable he is talking about it. At this stage, you want to just initiate a conversation about weddings in general so keep it broad. Another point is to not bring up the conversation about marriage up out of the blue as he will know it is something that is playing on your mind.
When you do bring the subject up, make sure it is when the subject is already at hand such as when watching a movie or after receiving a wedding invitation in the post. Another conversation you can get started is your future together. Just as with talk about marriage, make sure that when you bring up the subject of your future to do it casually and subtly and not suddenly and out of the blue. At this stage you want to find out whether marriage and your future together is something that he is also thinking of or is comfortable with talking about.
If he joins in the conversation and goes along with it then you can take from it that he can see you in his future. The aim is to monitor his reaction to see whether he is comfortable or dismissive about the subject. Sometimes the best thing to do is to set the scene for him and give him the perfect opportunity to pop the question by planning a romantic trip or a holiday of a lifetime.
I always plan the holidays in my relationship so it was something I was able to do. It was during a road trip down the west coast of America that me and my partner had an honest conversation about marriage and a week later he proposed when we were at home.
This was an honest feeling of mine and so I would certainly not have been disappointed with no wedding ring. I knew I just wanted to marry my man and that is it. This was perfect for me as it was just me and him being us rather than a big deal being made about it. I also used this tactic with my man but actually found out that it was him that wanted the big white wedding.
This came as a surprise to me as I was truly happy with just getting married and having a little party with close friends and family.
During our honest conversation while on holiday, I told him that it was him that was putting this financial burned of marriage on himself and that I would be happy to just be me and him and close friends and family.
It will again help to relieve some of the financial burden that can come when deciding whether to propose. While I always recommend remaining playful and keeping the excitement in the relationship, I also suggest you show him that you are wife material and possibly the mother of his children too. Your man wants to see that you can be both playful but also mature. Your relationship should be mostly happy and fun with perhaps the odd argument.
Be all of these things as well as remaining fun and playful. This perfect duo of traits will help your man realise that you are a woman of wife material and someone that he can see himself marrying. You know how good it feels when your man compliments on your dress or hair but do you compliment him as often? You may be surprised but men have feelings too and will feel they are appreciate if you compliment him and thanks him for things he has done.
Show your appreciation more saying thank you after he has fixed something or tell him how good he looks in that shirt. If your man feels appreciated then he will strive to do more to please you and one day will realise that marriage will make you happy and will follow through with a proposal.
Men are attracted to women who are confident, independent and who are in touch with their soft femininity and so make sure you have all these traits. If you have insecurities then work them out by talking it through without getting upset or angry.
If you are too dependent on your man then start building your own life again by going out with friends and focusing on your career. Sometimes the best thing that you can do is to surround your man with married friends. If you have mutual friends that are married then make sure to spend time with them by going for drinks or inviting them round for dinner. So far I have spoken about how to determine whether your man is ready for marriage and how to get him to propose by dropping hints.
If you still find yourself with no ring on your finger then now it is time to take the more direct approach which is what I found myself doing when I was on my mission to get my man to propose.
Sometimes hinting can only do so much and the time calls for you to have an honest conversation with your man. There are three main ways in which you can have a more direct approach to marriage which I have listed below. Make sure the time is right when you start a more direct conversation just as I did when we were on a dream holiday; we were both happy and destressed which made for the perfect time. You want him to open up to you about how he truly feels and what he is scared of or worried about so you can help resolve those fears and worries.
This will not happen if you start to cry or get angry with him. There are two people in the relationship who are equals so make sure you pay his feelings just as much attention as your own. Once he has opened up about his fears of marriage, you will be able to then reassure him of those fears so he knows there is nothing to worry about.
One of those fears may be that he believes that marriage may change what they have or that it would cost a lot of money. Make sure to listen first and then offer your reassurance. Your man will be more inclined to open up in the future about marriage and maybe even realise that you are not a princess dreaming but a mature woman who loves him and not the idea of being married. If your man tends to think decision through logically rather than with the heart then break it logically for him and explain how marriage can be beneficial.
This may not be the most romantic approach in the world but it will help your man open up to you in a way that he knows best. If this is the kind of thing your man goes for then why not use it? The decision making would be passed to their next of kin.
While this is definitely going down a more morbid path, it certainly highlights the logical importance of marriage. One that I used and I thought was important was that I would have a different surname to my own children which I would never want. It may be things like this that he has not thought about. You can find this out by casually bringing up the subject.
I once brought it up with my partner while watching a programme on the TV but quickly realised that it was something that I could never do. You will be able to tell if your man is open to the idea if he joins in the conversation with you and jokes positively about it and not negatively. You know your man better than anyone else and so there is no one in the world who will be able to tell whether you should propose to him or not and if so, how to do it… maybe except for his mum.
As well as knowing what you can do to get your boyfriend to propose, it is just as important to know what not to do to get your boyfriend to propose. Some of these things are more serious that other but you should be able to fix your mistake either easily or with time. Your aim should now be to get things back on track and remind your man why he loves you so that a proposal will be in your near future.
This is exactly what I suffered from many years ago. Somehow I finally cured myself and shut my trap when any thoughts of weddings or marriage entered my mind.
I only started slowly talking about it again when I noticed he started to mention weddings and marriage. The more you talk about it in fact, the less he is going to hear it. My family and his family did nothing to help the situation by constantly asking him when he is going to pop the question. How right she was! It was just his family that continued to do it but I thought it was my family and friends that were more important to stop bringing it up.
When men are being badgered by everyone about when he is going to pop the question, he may feel that he is being ganged up on. If you have friend and family who do this and think that they are helping them then thank them but tell them you think it would be best if they stopped and gave him so space. This is one of those ones that if you have already done it then it may be a hard one to recover from and could take time. At the time, this may seem like the best solution when you feel you have waited forever and still have no ring on your finger.
In actual fact though, giving your man an ultimatum could actually do the opposite and could delay him proposing by quite some time. Think about it… giving him an ultimatum will make him think that ending the relationship is just so easy for you and so why would he make a lifelong commitment when he thinks you can find it easy to just walk away from him. It is important you have your priorities right and that your man is more important than marriage.
If you know he is financially not ready then be supportive rather than push him into possible further debt. A lot of marriages fail in the first year because of financial stress because of the cost of the wedding.
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Are you constantly reminding them or even nagging them about how much you want to get married? While there may be perfect moments for you to bring it up and discuss your future together, tying it into every conversation is only going to make them feel annoyed and argumentative. Make sure that you listen to your guy or gal with an open heart and an open mind when he or she expresses fears and hang-ups, and be honest with them and with yourself to see if you can find common ground. Instead of helping them see that they should propose sooner rather than later so as not to lose you, this tactic can have the opposite effect and they may decide to end things.
Each time you talk about marriage, he goes hard of hearing in the two ears and starts talking about something else. We have compiled some ways through which you can get your guy to propose you without being obvious about it. To ensure this you should be his sounding board, his closest companion, and an expert in cooking his most loved dish. You need to understand that your person needs time away from you also.
Updated: December 19, Reader-Approved References. It's been a long time coming. You love him. He loves you. However, that magic moment just hasn't happened yet. How can you get him to propose? Just follow these steps to find out. If you think he might propose some time soon, consider planning a nice vacation with him, since this will give him a great opportunity to get down on one knee. For more tips, including how to directly ask your boyfriend about proposing, read on!
5 Ways to Get Your Partner to Propose
Full disclosure: Honest communication is always key in any relationship. But when you're ready to get engaged and you're not sure if your partner is too, it might not be the kind of topic you feel comfortable about casually bringing up. And as much as we'd like to say that some magic word will guarantee a proposal, people aren't mind readers. If you're not quite ready to flat out say, "Are you ready to get engaged yet? There are loads of possible reasons why your significant other hasn't proposed yet, and fear of rejection might be one of them—seriously!
Maybe this is having an impact on the strength of your relationship in general? The following guide features 24 subtle tricks that will convince him to propose. But first, I want to tell you about a powerful aspect of male psychology, which can have a huge impact on how they feel about their girlfriends. In my experience, it appears as if every man holds onto this way of thinking.
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