How to get a girl back after being needy
By Chris Seiter. Since the beginning of time there has been one thing that almost all relationship experts agree on,. They say that love makes people do crazy things. This fact was evidenced when I opened up my Facebook Page one afternoon and saw this meme posted by one of my subscribers,. In this guide I am going to be talking about how you can recover from these clingy or needy things that occurred in your relationship with your ex.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: How To Redeem Yourself After Acting "Needy"! DO THIS!
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How to Get Your Ex Back if You Were Clingy
By Chris Seiter. Since the beginning of time there has been one thing that almost all relationship experts agree on,. They say that love makes people do crazy things. This fact was evidenced when I opened up my Facebook Page one afternoon and saw this meme posted by one of my subscribers,. In this guide I am going to be talking about how you can recover from these clingy or needy things that occurred in your relationship with your ex. Essentially, what I am shooting for here is a way to wipe your slate clean with your ex so that you can give yourself the best shot of getting him back.
As it turns out there is a way in which being clingy and needy can be an attractive thing to men. In this section I am going to talk a little about that but I will also be giving you the low down on all the negatives that go along with being clingy and needy.
So, if you have ever wondered what kinds of things a stage 5 clinger does to turn off a man then the section entitled, The Negatives Of Being Clingy, is going to be especially interesting to you.
Take the quiz. Whenever you do research on women who are clingy or overly needy you often hear experts scolding them for that type of behavior. You actually never hear about the positives that go along with being clingy or needy. You see, as a man I can tell you that, as weird as this is going to sound, I like a woman to be a little clingy or needy. To me if a girl gets a little clingy it means she really has strong feelings for me and I like that. I want my woman to care about me on a level so deep that no one else can compare.
I want her to want me to be the last person she talks to before she goes to bed. I want her to think about me constantly throughout the day. Whenever a girl exhibits clingy behavior like jealousy, constantly wanting to be around me and texting me a lot I kind of like it. To me it is these things that tell me she really cares about me. I want to tell you about what a girl can do to all of a sudden make those cute little clingy behaviors into overly clingy to the point where it becomes a turn off.
One thing we have already established about me and most other men is that we like needy behavior but only to a certain extent. Lets pretend that you and I are dating and at the beginning of the relationship you would exhibit the three clingy behaviors I mentioned above. Well, at the beginning I found it kind of cute. I liked the fact that you got a little jealous because it meant you cared. I liked that you wanted to be around me all the time and I also liked that you texted me a lot.
Of course, as time went on I began to notice a gradual change in the intensity of these behaviors. In fact, your jealousy got so bad that at one point you literally forbade me to talk to anyone of the opposite sex. You also became so clingy to the point where any time I would go into a room you would have to follow me in there. You know how your shadow follows you around everywhere?
Well, you essentially became my new shadow. You see, at the beginning of our relationship we had a nice text ratio going. This means that we were completely even when texting each other.
Of course, as our relationship grew deeper the texting ratio changed completely to a ratio. This means that for every one text I would send you would send three in return. You see, when most women search the internet for advice on clingy behavior most experts list out all the needy behaviors that you need to avoid but almost none of them do a good job of explaining WHY you need to avoid them.
It is rare to find someone who will explain why men react badly to clingy behavior but I am going to because I am a man and I know how I would react if someone got overly needy. Imagine for a moment that you are walking down the street and all of a sudden you hear this buzzing around your head.
You look around and discover that a bunch of gnats are following you around. No matter how many times you swat at them they still stay put. No matter how fast you run they still seem to follow. It is entirely possible that this is how your ex boyfriend viewed you in your relationship if you were too overbearing with how you texted him.
Notice how this string of text messages follows the classic text ratio meaning,. One of the best ways to determine if you were a text gnat or not is to look at your last text messages between you and your ex.
If the ratio is close to it can be a little off here or there but has to be close then that means that you are doing well to stand by that ratio. If for example, the texting ratio ends up being something like where you have sent him 70 text messages and he has only responded to 30 of those text messages then that probably means you are venturing into text gnat territory where you are becoming kind of overbearing.
Someone who is a text gnat screams desperation and no guy wants a serious relationship with a woman who is desperate. They want a serious relationship with a woman who is confident enough to know that she actively chose to be with a guy. In fact, I remember a long time ago there was one girl who had such a crush on me that she would text gnat the heck out of me.
She kept texting me to the point where it really started annoying me and I eventually had to say something to her. Because she seemed totally desperate and if I am going to be attracted to anyone it was going to be a woman who is smart, independent and NOT desperate.
Because it shows how much you care about each other. Of course, jealousy can become very dangerous if it starts to develop on an extreme level. Lets say that you and I are currently in the middle of a relationship. As our relationship wears on I begin to notice that you get jealous any time I mention another girl.
Now, a normal girlfriend should be excited about the prospect of going to a party with her boyfriend. No, you are the insecure controlling type not really hopefully. Instead of being excited about the party you get angry at me for texting another girl and accuse me of cheating. How did you meet her? When was the last time you saw her? Are you cheating on me? I met her through work. You become so threatened by Tina that you forbid me to ever text another girl for the rest of my life.
In fact, if you ever catch me texting another girl throughout our relationship you threaten to break up with me. In my opinion, extreme jealousy has a direct correlation to a woman trying to control a man and nothing annoys a man more than a woman who tries to control him. Look, we chose to be in a relationship with you.
We chose to become exclusive with you. If you show us a little trust it can go a long way. I have only heard of one example of shadowing in my personal life but I have heard of multiple examples through this site which is why I know it exists. Shadowing- Becoming so dependent on another human being that you have to be around them all the time. It is an extreme form of being controlling. When I was in high school a very long time ago I knew a guy that would get angry at his girlfriend for the dumbest things.
I remember he once told me that when he was over at her house she left the room without him. When I heard this I was baffled at why he would have to accompany her if she simply wanted to leave the room. Look, I get being so in love with someone that you hate it when you are apart. However, if you have become so clingy or controlling that you literally have to go with them from room to room then that is a big issue. We need time to recharge sometimes before we can consume everything you want us to consume.
Think about it, if your ex wanted to have a guys night out with his friends but you insisted on tagging along you were harassing him with unwanted attention which is technically the same behavior a stalker engages in. That means that every day whenever I read your comments on this site I can kind of get bummed out because, to me, it sometimes feels as if all I see are failed relationships.
Lately, in an effort to change this I have been reading up a lot about the most successful relationships so I can get some positivity back in my life which in turn will help me give out better advice.
Neither person involved in the relationship tries to control the other person. Rather they work together as a team to discuss their issues. The thing about me is that I am the most loyal man you will ever meet. In other words, I am basically saying that the only time I would hang around other girls is if my girlfriend you in this imaginary case was there.
I feel this is an extremely rare quality in men now-a-days and it also says a lot about my character. So, lets pretend that you are really insecure about other girls around me, even though I have proven to you multiple times that I am the most trustworthy man on the planet.
In fact, you have become so insecure about other women that you constantly try to control me and basically order me to never talk to any of them ever again. Not to mention you are trying to control me and no man likes being controlled.
Now that you have a pretty good idea of what clingy behavior is and why it annoys men lets take a look at what you are going to have to do in order to overcome that clingy behavior to have a chance at getting your ex boyfriend back. Many of you are aware that I am a fan of putting graphics together for this site. Well, below you will find a graphic that i put together that will teach you how to overcome his reservations about taking you back because of your clingy nature.
Now, before I get started on explaining what I mean by these four pillars I feel it is very important to discuss the point of what we are trying to accomplish here. One thing we already know is that you want your ex boyfriend back. Well, in order to have a chance at winning him back you are first going to have to overcome his impression of you he thinks you are clingy. If the main goal that we are trying to accomplish here is overcoming your exes impression of you then it is probably a really good idea to figure out what that impression is.
For example, if you and I dated each other and I was constantly telling you how I hated the fact that you were always trying to control me then you would know that the clingy behavior that you would really have to work on is to NOT be controlling. In other words, what we are trying to do here is to figure out what behaviors you exhibited that needs to change for you to even have a shot of getting him back. I want you to think back to your fights and arguments with your ex.
So, when you think back to you and your exes fights what was it about you that he was complaining about that could be classified as clingy. Disclaimer- We are only looking for clingy behavior here.
4 Tips to Get Her Back After Being Needy
The air in their house almost even feels lighter than the air outside. For the first two or three weeks, he habitually walks into the house several times. Each time Sarah politely makes chit chat as she ushers him back out the front door.
Stage 5 Clinger – Getting A Boyfriend Back If You Were Too Clingy
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