Why girlfriend get jealous
An ex of mine from college was coming to town for work and wanted to get together for dinner. This was a relationship that ended amicably, and we remained good friends. I have no romantic feelings. Around the time my girlfriend got jealous, we got on to the subject of how many people each of us had been with. She was shocked by my number. So dismayed she refused to tell me her number.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: 5 Signs A Girl Is Jealous And Likes You
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Dealing with a jealous girlfriend
An ex of mine from college was coming to town for work and wanted to get together for dinner. This was a relationship that ended amicably, and we remained good friends. I have no romantic feelings. Around the time my girlfriend got jealous, we got on to the subject of how many people each of us had been with. She was shocked by my number.
So dismayed she refused to tell me her number. I want to confront her about this, especially because I have not given her a reason to distrust me, but I fear that would drive her away. You want to reveal to prospective partners who you are and how you got there, yes — but through emotional honesty and context-appropriate storytelling. Not by forensic audit or at proverbial paranoid gunpoint. You can take reasonable offense at her thinking so little of you — or take a compassionate view of her thinking so little of herself.
Both are the beginning of various abusive ends. Despite having options she rightly controls: She can make peace with your past; wait and see without telling you what to do; or break up with you knowing she no longer trusts you.
All you can do, meanwhile, is keep being yourself. Honestly and transparently so. And explain that you have always chosen how to conduct your own friendships, and will continue to do so, as you expect she will with her friendships. And you can point out that you want to keep seeing her and seeing where this relationship goes.
But only if she is comfortable with both of you being yourselves and letting things play out. Consider, though: Six months is a heartbeat. She might not have changed so much as revealed a bit more of her truth. If her truth involves locking things down, then please set yourself free, and soon.
The opinions expressed in reader comments are those of the author only, and do not reflect the opinions of The Seattle Times. By Carolyn Hax. DEAR S. That understanding changed because you were honest and transparent about your history.
Her response to your transparency was to choose not to be transparent with you. Or trust you. More math: Her response was also to doubt herself. And it would be on the right side of important boundaries. Email Carolyn at tellme washpost. Find her columns daily at www. Most Read Life Stories Could the coronavirus reset society?
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I believe that every person has areas of enduring vulnerability. For a marriage to succeed, these vulnerabilities need to be understood and honored. This flips jealousy on its head. Instead of something to avoid in relationships, jealousy becomes an opportunity to connect. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.
Coping with a jealous girlfriend can be difficult. You may feel you're being unfairly scrutinized at all times. Work on reassuring your girlfriend in the moment by listening to her feelings and talking them over with her. From there, consider her perspective.
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Jealousy can rip apart a relationship, slowly but surely obliterating everything good about everything and leaving you feeling pretty awful. I spoke with nine relationship experts, and they all conveyed a sense of positivity about the whole thing, reminding us that it is possible to find real change within a relationship, as long as both parties are really serious about figuring out what to do. Many experts cited insecurity as a sure-fire cause of jealousy, and gently shared some great methods to open up with your partner and figure out how to take their jealousy down a notch or five. Toney tells Bustle. But you can assure your partner that things are different now.
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